Every now and then there can be a little friendly competition, or some signs of a competitiveness building among our close friends. This can be considered beneficial in some instances, but in others it can be downright damaging. We certainly have some effect on the outcome of these situations. It’s usually important that we don’t take too personally some aspects of just minor competitions. For instance, we must have some degree of self-esteem. If that starts to dwindle away, the door is opened to a higher chance of vulnerability. Of course, this all really depends on what the competitive nature is actually all about. Minor games or contests should not be seen as a big deal in the long run. If the friend is actually beginning to take advantage of us, that’s a huge warning sign we need to either communicate frankly about the issue or begin backing away from the “friendship”.
Another way we can handle a little competitiveness is by figuratively or explicitly cheering each other on. This is especially true when it involves sports or some friendly games. If we show our support for the other person/people involved, that tends to invite their own support and encouragement. On the other hand, there are always going to be those people who cheat, take out their frustration on others, or otherwise try to bring those they’re competing against down. If that’s the case, the reality is sometimes these people are not ever going to change. Depending on the friendship, we can communicate the issue with them, but sometimes it’s best to pull away from a relationship that can become devastating.
I believe that gratitude is a significant factor in maintaining or creating high levels of satisfaction. There are certainly many ways we can show gratitude or an appreciation for things we’ve experienced that bring us joy. I’m of the impression that the characteristics of gratitude are such that it is not just a “trait” only some people have. This is important to consider because it means we can allow gratitude to help shape our lives for the better. I’ve learned that graciousness can also help to cut down levels of pessimism or indignation. Letting people know we are thankful through writing letters is quite an obvious method for delivering on this promise. Another way is to let them know upfront and directly. By spreading graciousness we can spread even more levels of happiness and pleasure. Not only that, but we can distribute the awareness that thankfulness oftentimes builds more strength to help those going through hard experiences. A lot of the condition also depends on our own ability to sympathize with others.
To this day I will still write in cursive if there’s a situation that calls for handwriting in a hurry or when I need to sign something important. Of course nowadays there are a ton of gadgets that actually necessitate typing rather than handwriting, but I’m only focusing on those instances that call for the latter. Sometimes I notice other people’s signatures, and I’m fascinated by how differently we all really do sign things. When there’s a device that needs an electronic signature with a stylus, I often struggle to make the signature seem as pretty and nice as it would actually be on paper. I’m often shocked at how different it comes out. As long as they accept the verification it’s all good with me though. I remember learning for the first times how to scribble in cursive when I was in school. I was super excited because it seemed like the penmanship was totally fancy and a sign of growing up. Of course things have changed and I usually don’t get so enthused just from that penmanship. But in retrospect, I’m thankful for those opportunities.