Every now and then there can be a little friendly competition, or some signs of a competitiveness building among our close friends. This can be considered beneficial in some instances, but in others it can be downright damaging. We certainly have some effect on the outcome of these situations. It’s usually important that we don’t take too personally some aspects of just minor competitions. For instance, we must have some degree of self-esteem. If that starts to dwindle away, the door is opened to a higher chance of vulnerability. Of course, this all really depends on what the competitive nature is actually all about. Minor games or contests should not be seen as a big deal in the long run. If the friend is actually beginning to take advantage of us, that’s a huge warning sign we need to either communicate frankly about the issue or begin backing away from the “friendship”.
Another way we can handle a little competitiveness is by figuratively or explicitly cheering each other on. This is especially true when it involves sports or some friendly games. If we show our support for the other person/people involved, that tends to invite their own support and encouragement. On the other hand, there are always going to be those people who cheat, take out their frustration on others, or otherwise try to bring those they’re competing against down. If that’s the case, the reality is sometimes these people are not ever going to change. Depending on the friendship, we can communicate the issue with them, but sometimes it’s best to pull away from a relationship that can become devastating.